Matt⚕️ @Matt⚕️ - 19h
'Mansplaining' is also an inherently sexist term, because it implies that the thing in question is only bad because a man is doing it. And there's no real way to combat the accusation because it can just be labeled mansplaining and dismissed. The entire concept is a dismissive way of silencing men. And there are some men who are rude and don't listen. I've met my share of women who are the same way. I wonder what the reaction would be if I said something like "you're being such a woman right now." That's effectively what the term mansplaining does. It's socially acceptable in my workplace (female dominated) for women to say that they hate men. I've literally heard that. "All men are the same." I've been told that. I once heard a woman say she would exterminate all men if she could. I push back because I know I'm a good man, and their ideologies are weak (she'd be the first to go if all men actually disappeared). But I also have the fuck you money to confront these things and go all the way. Is alienating good men really the solution? No. And as much as some women hate to admit it, they would starve and freeze to death if all men vanished from the earth. Men wouldn't survive without women either. We are equally important and should respect one another. nostr:nevent1qqsv8mqym639x8u980er3xwtrdfjwjsj9rzw79var6jzv2zjdwlpvggpz4mhxue69uhhyetvv9ujuerpd46hxtnfduhsyg8g8dn23mfdxlq86x475msmqq9p24yud9gglfx9sa24d4ftq5nv9vpsgqqqqqqsh4fr4h
bc02e - 19h
I very much agree with a like this take! A lot of it is in the language we see throughout legacy media, and the more we see/engage in that type of language the more it becomes the voice in our heads. I remember ages ago I used to read Jezebel and it was very funny and relatable to me, but it wasn't nice humor towards men of course. At first it felt justified, I've had many times where men have hurt me for a laugh and it made me feel sad and afraid. So here I am having a laugh at men and what, just hurting their feelings so that's better than physical hurt I've had. But that is not the way, we cannot heal hurts by spreading more hurt even lesser hurts. If it makes you feel any better to combat the social conditioning my single lady friends and I used to start nights out on the town by chanting "we like men!" over and over again. Most of us are still single but hey, we've been able to move away from the man hating and are working on converting our other friends. I'm not sure what pill that would be? If Nostr is purple and Bitcoin is orange maybe love is the pink pill 💖💊💖
There are plenty of sociopaths out there seeking to weaponize your internal pain for profit. That's what most media does. They give you something to aim at. Immigrants, another skin color, Jews, the opposite sex, this or that. Project Mockingbird and stuff like it should give everyone pause, but they're too riled up by media to stop and think.
I find the more I focus on in person interactions the more I love other people. I just don't really see the hate as often in person like I do online, because it's the bots that are spreading the hate!
I have a paper I wrote somewhere that included research about divisive bots. It was a study to see how they could be used to influence human belief and behavior. The results were awful and demoralizing.
bc02e - 18h
Are you saying that positive in person interactions are just with cowardly jerks who are jerks online and positive to my face? 😞
I would be sincerely interested in reading that paper! Have you posted it here?
I'm not that great of one, still just taking classes 🤣 one day I'll try to scope your keys to show pow 😘
I have a lot of pokers in the fire. That's just a whimsical fun hobby by comparison.
bc02e - 16h
There are many psychology classes in kinesics, the study of body language, that could be interesting and informative. Some are even available online, but I think that's a subject probably better in person. In terms of intent, I do think we all have empathy enough to be able to read that well naturally if we tune into it. It's a matter of learning to center yourself enough to get used to understanding your own thought-voice and your own emotions, then you can differentiate when you feel / "hear" something that's not yours. The psy-gym does have several classes on that, but also there are free guided meditations on YouTube etc. that teach increasing empathy that would also do the trick.
