Laser ⚡☀️ @broadmode - 1y
Here's what they miss: - Life is really really brutal alone; a family is the best chance you have at contentment. Gender roles are the ancient playbook for reserved rights and responsibilities uniquely suited to everyone's inherint properties. They are priveleges more than anything. - In peacetime men can seem like a frivolous tyranny but in wartime the memory of intertribal chaos returns. - The children serve the parents. The wife serves the husband. The husband serves his community, his own mission, and Jesus Christ. Everyone works. Everyone serves. - Life isn't about pleasure, it's about harvesting enough meaning and growth so that you can be a positive example and ultimately die with courage. - Absolute freedom doesn't exist.
Mindaugas @Mindaugas - 5d
Absolute freedom does exist, you just have to limit the size and number of compromises you make in life, and find your second half who also believes in and understands absolute freedom. I will not call for community that understands these, because that is definitelly impossible nowadays, but at least the family without sacrificing freedom is possible. You can commit and receive commitments without creating dependencies. Bible is not enough to learn how to do that but it is possible. Except with children of course, because they are not independent, not individuals essentially. But then they grow up, and you are free again.
If you want freedom you just have to prioritize it over other things. People often think to themselves that they want something, e.g. freedom, but then when it comes to specific choices in small details of life, they start accepting compromises. For example: I want freedom, but I also need an appartment. This one is the best price and niciest, but the community rules require that I clean the pathway every week and water the flowers. I don't need and don't like those, but that is a small compromise considering the other benefits. Well, you have just obtained a dependency for yourself. You will have a needless duty that you dislike, feel endebted to the neighbours, and lose the roof if you don't comply. Mortgage is another, bigger one. I wanna be free, but I also want a nicer house which I don't have cash in the pocket for. So which do you want more? If a nicer house is a higher priority for you, then don't think you want to be free. Freedom has a price, but it exists.
