Laeserin @Laeserin - 6mo
Do men even realize that some women find excessive male wealth a turn-off?
The men or the women? 😂
The Marie 🦂⚡️ @Marie - 6mo
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I suspect having a lot of money can make it harder to be a good man because you have more occasion to sin.
I've never heard a man even mention that this might be a thing, so I'm curious.
I agree that wealth isn't inherently bad, but I prefer to gain wealth together with someone else, then to just marry into it. But maybe that's my own paranoia.
Like, it's nice when he earns similar or a bit more, but dating can be awkward, when you can't even afford a car and he pulls up in a Lambo, or something. Like WTF? 😂
I guess "excessive wealth" is very relative, but that's inherent to the concept of wealth.
Of course they wouldn’t.
It goes against their entire worldview. 😂 Probably seems illogical, to them. Some money good. More money, more good. Mega money, bestest. 🙄
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Even with a dower, the whole thing is awkward, but at least she'd feel less like a kept woman.
If he spends money on you --> He's trying to buy my affections. 🤨 If he doesn't spend money on you --> He loves his money more than me. 😭 He can't win. 😂
I'm solidly middle-class and like it. That's like... my scene. I'd claim middle-class, even if I won the lottery. 😂
I feel like Bitcoin is making this more confusing because there are so many single guys who bought Bitcoin at low prices and are now suddenly rich. Same with the wave of only children inheriting old houses or stock portfolios that are worth a fortune because of changes in the market.
I own property outright, that he's given me as presents, and I think he does that because he can tell that the imbalance sort of creeps me out.
It took him a long time to talk me into being a SAHM and I went back to work, as soon as I could. But even so, his income is multiples of mine and it grates. Every time I do the taxes, I'm reminded of how skewed it is, and I think that's why I never want to buy anything for myself.
The Pentographer @The Pentographer - 6mo
I imagine most wouldn't even stumble onto this thought. The ones that do probably don't care. I know I certainly don't. I've got a small family and we want it to get bigger. The more I can make the better, but my earning potential is likely much lower than the guys you're referring to. I just want to miximize it for them.
f5997 - 6mo
Isn't this often going to come with a class divide? I think both men and women would notice that pretty quickly, more so than "wealth".
Yes, it's all so complicated. I always wonder what it was like, earlier. Was it easier to navigate or did people just assume it would be difficult? Women were mostly SAHM before, so they didn't have to make that choice consciously and nobody made assumptions about them based upon their situation.
I'm a bit preoccupied with the topic because I always dated men (like my husband) who were significantly older, so if they were rich, as well, it was like https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6vwNcNOTVzY
Yeah, "excessive" is subjective. I thought being a millionaire was a excessive, but it'd seem normal, if I were a millionaire.
On the other hand, they didn't have a choice. Which sorta sucks.
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There are young guys on here pulling $100k+ in salary alone. 🥴 They might as well live on a different planet.
I mean that's fair enough. I'm older than my wife as well and was doing well at the time we met. I think that's fairly normal. I'm sure on the extreme end it maybe starts to look a but off but I tend not to judge on that too much. Men like young hotties and women like a certain level of security. As the kids say, "you do you boo".
Most of the guys on here are probably much wealthier than I am, or at least, that's how it seems. Can make it sort of hard to talk to them, although the hardcore hodlers are at least stingy enough to also care about the price of chicken legs at the butcher. 😂
I thought it would wear off, over time, but I'm aging really slowly and his income has gone way up, so the effect is actually worsening. He introduces me to business partners or whatnot and they're like 👀 Broooooo! You da man! 🤦♀️
Yeah. Caring for dependents and keeping house is basically seen as "doing nothing". And then they lecture us all that we need to increase the birth rate and it's like, make up your mind.
I guess I just get depressed, sometimes. Like I have to justify my own existence.
It bothers me, even if they try to be nice about it.
Adjectives are inherently subjective.
