Laeserin @Laeserin - 8mo
Do men even realize that some women find excessive male wealth a turn-off?
The men or the women? 😂
The Marie 🦂⚡️ @Marie - 8mo
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I suspect having a lot of money can make it harder to be a good man because you have more occasion to sin.
I've never heard a man even mention that this might be a thing, so I'm curious.
I agree that wealth isn't inherently bad, but I prefer to gain wealth together with someone else, then to just marry into it. But maybe that's my own paranoia.
Like, it's nice when he earns similar or a bit more, but dating can be awkward, when you can't even afford a car and he pulls up in a Lambo, or something. Like WTF? 😂
I guess "excessive wealth" is very relative, but that's inherent to the concept of wealth.
Of course they wouldn’t.
It goes against their entire worldview. 😂 Probably seems illogical, to them. Some money good. More money, more good. Mega money, bestest. 🙄
Absolutely 💯
Even with a dower, the whole thing is awkward, but at least she'd feel less like a kept woman.
If he spends money on you --> He's trying to buy my affections. 🤨 If he doesn't spend money on you --> He loves his money more than me. 😭 He can't win. 😂
I own property outright, that he's given me as presents, and I think he does that because he can tell that the imbalance sort of creeps me out.
It took him a long time to talk me into being a SAHM and I went back to work, as soon as I could. But even so, his income is multiples of mine and it grates. Every time I do the taxes, I'm reminded of how skewed it is, and I think that's why I never want to buy anything for myself.
The Pentographer @The Pentographer - 8mo
I imagine most wouldn't even stumble onto this thought. The ones that do probably don't care. I know I certainly don't. I've got a small family and we want it to get bigger. The more I can make the better, but my earning potential is likely much lower than the guys you're referring to. I just want to miximize it for them.
f5997 - 8mo
Isn't this often going to come with a class divide? I think both men and women would notice that pretty quickly, more so than "wealth".
Yes, it's all so complicated. I always wonder what it was like, earlier. Was it easier to navigate or did people just assume it would be difficult? Women were mostly SAHM before, so they didn't have to make that choice consciously and nobody made assumptions about them based upon their situation.
I'm a bit preoccupied with the topic because I always dated men (like my husband) who were significantly older, so if they were rich, as well, it was like https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6vwNcNOTVzY
Yeah, "excessive" is subjective. I thought being a millionaire was a excessive, but it'd seem normal, if I were a millionaire.
I guess I just get depressed, sometimes. Like I have to justify my own existence.
People see parenting as something done instead of having a real job. Like being unemployed.
