The Prim Reaper @Laeserin - 12d
Wealthy men lament how their wealth complicates their search for true love, but you'll notice that they don't consider giving up that wealth to make the search a bit easier. There is a lesson in that. nostr:note1pvtvdrcwllnxw7eagdthrfzesgp8ftz4nha904ug5jzxansugf0sl8eu5m
But then, she will eventually find out and know you lied through omission.
And it doesn't solve for the problem that you loved the money more than her, before you met her. Women want to be cherished, as if they were the most-precious thing you could even imagine. But she was never that. You already had that. And you hid your precious, for fear of losing it.
Living modestly is not misleading, no. I'm assuming you'd tell her quite early about such a significant aspect of your person, if you want to remain honest.
You don't "have" to disclose anything. You cannot make a deep emotional connection with her, if you initially engage under a cloud of mistrust and a fear of losing what you really love (your money).
Love is inherently self-sacrificial and romantic love adds the aspects of naivety, optimism, and idealism. It is a hopeful, childlike phenomenon, where you throw all caution to the wind and think "you and me, with nothing, against the world". These are aspects of the male psyche that wealth erodes.
Let us join hands, darling, I will sweep you up and we shall run off to the hills forever, and spend all day picking berries, talking about God and the world, and making love.
I am his life's work.
I married him because he approached me as if he were completely sure and I got overwhelmed by his confidence. That's what it is, to be swept off your feet. The stuff of every romance novel and the tale every happily-married woman will trot out for anyone willing to sit still for long enough to hear it. Because she knows that she is living the dream.